Leading Self for Life
Want to know how to simplify your life? Want to know and benefit from the power of creative thinking in life? Want to know about the mental viruses? Want to build antivirus for your mind? Want to know about your true potential? Want to know how to stay healthy, positive and happy in life? Want to learn how to be successful and happy in your life?
If the answer is a “YES”, take a moment, sit back and think of all the good things in your life. Then look at things which you feel are not so right and you want to change. List down all things you want to change and also what aspect you want to change? Then think about the quickest way to change them and roughly how long it is expected to make those changes? If there is people in the to-change list, think how easy it is to change people? Can we change people around us? If you think yes, what aspect and to what extent can we change? How many things around us can we change? Can the change outside of you permanently guarantee what you are looking for? While everything part of this creation is perpetually in a state of transition or state of change including all human beings, it is very difficult to introduce a change from outside in any person or a thing unless that person or thing is willing to accept change. It takes a lot of effort and time to induce changes in other people from outside even if they accept. Is it really worth changing things outside of us with so much effort and time? Then what is the easiest thing to change in this world, which can change the world for you? The easiest thing to change in this world is your “Self” because only you have 100% control on yourself. The easiest way to make you happy is by being happy yourself. Accept that you do not have 100% control on others. *See things as they are not as you want them to be. Did you know you have a choice to be happy in any situation? No matter what happens in life, you can choose to be happy. Have your ever tried to be consciously happy? Try once and you will do it again and again. If you are convinced with the above, proceed further for the short tour of leading “Self” movement… Take a look at the picture below for a couple of minutes and continue below
Success and leadership is a package not just a few traits.
Your mind is your greatest asset and only you can guard it. If you don’t protect,
it will become your greatest liability.
*Exceptions are ok once a while but they should not become a norm. You must always be alert. As soon as such thoughts come to your mind, kick it or block it vigilantly. They keep coming at you stronger and you got to keep blocking and kicking harder. There are no two things in life, either you control virus or let virus control you. It’s a continuous tussle in your head and you got to play football with those negative thoughts. If you miss one of those balls it will be a self-goal for you. Even one thought penetrating your antivirus will cause harm to you. It’s like one bad fish which can spoil the entire lake. *Unless you develop a robust and strong antivirus the chances of you becoming and staying successful are slim. Your mind is your greatest asset and only you can guard it. If you don’t protect, it will become your greatest liability.
Thoughts which have the seeds of potential virus>>Thoughts of unhappiness, sorrow,fear, disbelief, frustration, lack of confidence, lack of self-belief, lack of self-esteem, lack of direction and purpose, not now, not today, maybe tomorrow, have a lot of time, it’s ok to break it once, not in the mood, let me sleep, exercise is no priority, I’m in good health; it’s ok to eat & drink junk, studies is no big deal for a few days etc. contain inherent seeds of virus and act as decelerating agents so be mindful of these all the time.
*There are no two drivers in life; either you drive out virus or let virus drive you.
Antivirus for the mind: At any given point in time human mind can hold only one thought; that is how the mind works. Just say to yourself “no virus please” when such thoughts happen to you or alternatively replace a virus thought with a good thought, a positive thought. You got understand and watch how the mind works and play the sport by the rules. When people or situations present or offer demotivating thoughts to you; your antivirus must be ever alert to detect and block them right there at the entrance. Just make it habit in life to not accept unnecessary and unwanted gifts from people or situations or experiences with a smile. Remember, getting angry and losing your balance is also virus (negative) hence a “No thank you” must be handy in your mind to such thoughts. Replacing negative with positive thought(s) is the simple remedy if you fail to detect some virus but a little hard to implement in the beginning. It’s more or less same like learning to ride a bicycle. Initial few times it seems so tough to ride the bicycle but eventually with practice you learn. It’s the same with blocking and replacing virus as well. Play it as your favorite sport because that is the only way you can play it all your life.
*Remember, it’s either you or virus which is in control of your life. Without antivirus protection, your life will get corrupt and lose direction and purpose.
Building antivirus for mind is like a marathon run or a 24/7 football match, play it like your favorite sport and enjoy; health, happiness and success will follow.
4. Guru or Teachers - Guru is a Sanskrit word and is formed by the syllables gu and ru. Gu indicates darkness, and ru indicates destruction, guru means "dispeller of darkness". Without guru's, our lives will be filled with darkness even in the brightest of sun. Always, have the greatest of gratitude and respect for parents and teachers.
Creator cannot teach everyone, everything hence he created teachers.
5. Purpose and direction in life - Find a purpose and direction for your life. It is fine to take extra time to make this decision but be clear in your mind about the purpose and direction you want to head for rest the of your life. It will be one of the biggest and best decisions you would ever take in your life. Know what you want in life and where you want to see yourself. Knowing what your interests are, what you love to do in life is fundamental to success.
Knowing ones interests, likes and priorities early in life and sticking to it all thru is the simplest way to success and happiness
The irony about human beings is; everyone knows where they are going and why, when they step out of their homes everyday but when it comes to knowing where one wants to go in life, most people are unclear and have no answers. When it comes to journey of life, most people are just hopping from one road to another with no clear vision and direction in their mind. They are taking the road which is convenient and easy to pick without giving it serious thoughts. This is one of the biggest reasons why most people are unhappy and unsuccessful.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others, And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them” – Dalai Lama
*For more, read the complete “leading self” hand guide and presentation for schools. Thank you for joining the leading self moment.
1. A life without purpose and direction is a life without a meaning.
2. Know your areas of inherent interests, likes and priorities and be convinced.
3. Choices we make, makes us (good or bad).
4. Knowing and believing in self is the first step to the path of success.
5. Everything comes with a price, to grow; you must labor and cultivate self.
6. All your actions must be guided with right motives to be on the path of growth.
7. Path of conscious and continuous learning is the way to realize one’s true potential.
8. If you don’t believe in yourself nobody else will.
9. No two drivers in life, either you drive mental virus or let the virus drive you.
10.All negatives thoughts in mind are viruses which can potentially destroy your life.
11.Your mind is your greatest asset; protect it else it will become your greatest liability
12.Without antivirus protection, your life will get corrupt and lose direction and purpose.
13.I equals to Infinite in potential.
14.It’s not what we have but what we do with what we have.
15.No substitute for self-effort, smart work & creativity should complement hard work.
16.Judge yourself always and others when must.
17.Happiness is a choice; learn to be happy and positive by choice.
18.There are no short cuts to success but many to failures.
19.We have no choice but to eat the fruits of our actions (both good & bad).
20.Getting ahead is ordinary but getting ahead taking people along is extra-ordinary.
21.Being healthy, happy & positive is fundamental to everything we do in life.
22.Not just the end goal but the path you chose is equally important.
23.Knowing and being self is the basis for winning self.
24.Try to win self before others.
25.Little progress everyday ads up to big results.
26.Nothing is impossible for a willing and clean heart.
27.If you don’t respect & tolerate people for what they are, people won’t respect you for what you are.
28.Your “self” is at the center of your life all the time; hence take care of yourself before others.
29.When you learn to take care of yourself, it’s easier to extend it to others. You can only give or extend what you have, not what you don’t.
30.Every human being is blessed with infinite potential and 24 hours every day; it’s about believing in that and taking step(s) towards achieving your purpose in life every day.
31.Build your own antivirus for the mind, you cannot buy one.
32.Human beings are point in time species; it’s ok to change the direction and purpose when you are convinced in future but always be 100% convinced about the present choice since present is the only gift we have.
33.Approach things with a musical or sports mindset and lose the “I” in the action. “I” in you is the only bottleneck or enabler in everything you do.